It’s fair to say that far too often I’m so busy with life that I forget to just stop for a moment and enjoy it. I would hazard a guess that most of you are the same. So today I did it…I stopped for just a few minutes and thought about all the things which are making me happy in my life right now. It wasn’t difficult and it felt really good to think about it. Here’s my list:
Number one simply has to be my family – for those who don’t know, our family came together last October, when my daughter and I moved in with my partner and his son. We’ve now been living together almost a year and it makes me happy.
I know it sounds crazy because I regularly moan about not having enough hours in the day, but it is a catch 22 so to speak, because I do love being busy. #fact
Laughing with my little girl
Anyone who has read this blog before or even just my last post will know that like any parent, I have moments where I could (and sometimes do) scream. But nothing takes away the fact that I love my little girl and that laughing with Ellie is pure pleasure. Ellie makes me happy.
Starting a new venture – honesty and aloe
I have recently started a new venture, becoming an independent distributor of Forever Living Products. Forever Living is the largest producer and supplier of Aloe Vera and bee products in the world. The range includes health drinks, skin care, cosmetics and weight loss products. They are a member of the Direct Selling Association and have a vast network of individual distributors through which the products are shared with the world.
Quite simply I love the products and after using them myself for well over 12 months I’ve now become a distributor. I’m so excited about my new venture and it makes me happy.
I should add that Forever offers anyone willing to put the work in the opportunity to create their own business and develop their own income. If that sounds interesting to you there’s more information here.
A freezer full of home grown stuff
We moved into our new house in January and I decided that whilst I didn’t have time to sort everything I’d have liked to in the garden, I’d at least have a go at growing some vegetables. Whilst not everything succeeded, my little vegetable patch has been quite successful and what makes me happy this week is the freezer full of things from the garden. Happy because I grew them and happy because I haven’t wasted any.
A cup of tea
Despite the fact that I’m in danger of sounding a little well…older than my age, I can’t help but include here the humble cup of tea. I really do feel happy when I have a cup of tea in my hand!
So there it is, some of the things that are making me happy right now. You’ll note that this post started with ‘all the things that make me happy’ and has changed to ‘some of the things’ – that’s because once you start thinking about what makes you happy, you realise just how much there is.
So come on, take a minute and have a think…what’s makes you happy right now.
There is one thing that’s so special that my little girl saves it just for me…a gift just for mummy. It’s not those special kisses which I love, that bedtime hug which I treasure so much or the pictures she makes for me to keep.
This special gift is something quite different and the only way for me to explain is to describe it…
Last Friday, I was the last one of the family home. When I opened the front door I found three happy, smiling faces. What a lovely welcome…and then….Ellie’s special gift, the thing that’s just for me, appeared. Literally within 15 minutes of me being home the calm, happy little girl had gone and was replaced by grumpy Ellie – moaning, talking back, whinging and crying were all thrown in for good measure.
On Sunday, I collected Ellie back from a sleepover at Grandma and Grandads to reports of her being well behaved and lovely the whole time. We literally stepped in our own front door and grumpy Ellie appeared. Instantly. I tried so hard to be upbeat and positive, to distract her and find a way to ensure we had a lovely relaxing afternoon together, but alas the afternoon was punctuated by grumps and tantrums.
On Monday, I collected her from the out of school club to reports of her being great and playing really well with everyone. We stepped in our front door and once again grumpy Ellie appeared – demanding, moaning and generally not doing what I asked.
Previously, if I’m really honest, I’d have put the odd incident like this down to her being tired because historically there was without doubt a direct link – but even I can’t claim that this time because she literally isn’t tired and its not a one off.
So can someone please tell me, why is my daughter perfectly behaved for everyone, literally everyone, except me. Why is it that Ellie saves her very best tantrummy and grumpy behaviour for my exclusive enjoyment.
I guess it’s the way around I’d want it – because I’d be horrified if she was behaving badly with anyone else. I also am hoping it’s just a phase – but I guess only time will tell.
So as of Tuesday this week Summer was officially over and it was back to work and back to School. Ellie has settled right back in and despite the knees and elbows taking a bashing (see below!) she seems happy to be back.
Whilst the change in pace from more play than learning in reception, to more learning than play in year one hasn’t gone unnoticed by Ellie; she is clearly very settled. I know this because she’s proudly explained at least ten times that ‘we do a lot more work now mummy’ and had a smile on her face every time. The french and art lessons in particular seemed to be used to emphasise the point. Here’s Ellie’s latest artwork which I should add was presented to me with a full, detailed explanation of how it was created:
So it’s fair to say that the week has gone pretty smoothly overall, that is except one little problem …… me. Yes, it’s mummy trouble! Sometimes there is no doubting the fact that managing my own head seems to be more difficult, and take more energy, than anything else! Let me explain:
1. Out of school club
Ellie has started the out of school club, going both before and after school. In lots of ways i’m really lucky because my work is flexible so that I can usually drop and pick her off one day per week, but I can’t always guarantee it so she’s booked in every day. It’s fair to say that Ellie, as is usually the case, is not phased by this, I however can’t help but feel a little sad and a lot guilty.
These are long days for Ellie and when I collect her to come home it is very much eat, bath, bed – to the point where we haven’t even had time for stories every night this week, something we’ve always done.
I know I’ll settle into it eventually but right now – I just do feel crappy about it.
2. I am NOT a Pushy parent
Now I’m not a teacher and I don’t understand all the magic that is teaching – I know that. But when Ellie came home from school with a level 1 learning tree book I simply couldn’t hold back. In went a letter on day 2 stating that Ellie loves reading but that even she had a laughing fit when she saw the book – she was on a MUCH higher level before the summer break. I really don’t want to be a pushy parent, but I don’t want her to get fed up with reading or stop improving either!
A letter duly came back from school, having gone out to all parents, explaining that these new books are different (although they look very similar and are clearly uber basic) but they cover different aspects of phonics.
Now I’m sorry, but even if that is the case my pushy parent instinct is still rolling it’s eyes because quite frankly, when the child is laughing at the book, that surely tells you something! My fight against being a pushy parent means I am just about managing not to write another note back. Of course there is the reading and phonics evening for parents coming up next week………. to be continued!
So there you have it, this week I’m the one being trouble and once again I’m looking at my daughter and thinking I need to learn a trick from her book – just settling in and cracking on.