Monthly Archives: November 2013

My Simple pleasure

This post is about something which I’ve done every day from the day my daughter was born, almost six years ago, until now. It’s my simple pleasure.

Every evening just before I go to bed, I look in at my daughter – when she was little this was to check she was ok but now, it’s not about that at all, it’s for me. I take just a minute to watch her sleeping and then I plant a gentle kiss on her cheek. My heart bursts with love every time I do it and whilst once I wondered if it might become just routine, I know it won’t.

It’s in this moment I remind myself how blessed I am to be a parent and why the fact that I’ve shouted at her, or she’s been naughty, or I’m exhausted, really doesn’t matter.

After a tough week, this is the perfect post to make me smile. I hope it makes you smile too.

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Random thoughts – 24 November 2013

Welcome to this week’s #randomthoughts

It’s been a busy week and as a result I was somewhat inundated with random thoughts from which to choose for this week’s post. Once again though I’ve chosen just 5 which I think share the highlights of my week.

If you haven’t seen #randomthoughts before, then please do have a look here to find out more.

So, without further ado here are this week’s random thoughts:

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When I lived near the seaside I used to go to the beach to unwind, de-stress and relax. I’ve been worrying a little that I have no equivalent nowadays, but this week as I lolled in a long, hot bath for the fifth time in seven days I realised I actually had. #ilovebaths

Things I say always sounds perfectly reasonable when I say them, but somehow they don’t when Ellie repeats them. My favourite this week: ‘they’re driving like lunatics’. #thinkbeforeIspeak

I couldn’t help but wonder aloud why one of Ellie’s flashing school shoes was no longer working. Without missing a beat Ellie quickly explained it’s because she hops a lot on that foot. #makessense

When my other half brought me a pain au chocolate for breakfast I knew the healthy eating push was a fail. #weak

It’s a shock to me that i’ve actually done almost all of my Christmas shopping now. #needsmust

So that’s it for this week’s installment – please do get in touch via a comment or tweet to let me know what you think and what you’re random thoughts are this week. I’d love to hear from you.

Random thoughts – 17 November 2013

Welcome to this weeks #randomthoughts – a round up of my week in my top five random thoughts. If you haven’t seen my random thoughts posts before, it only started a couple of weeks ago and you can read more here.

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So here are this week’s #randomthoughts:


When your other half is having a full on laughing fit which seems to be a bit like an asthma attack – do you laugh or call 999 #confused

You know you’re getting old when all the teachers at school look at least half your age #depressing

It seems to me that the weekend before I start my clean 9 – nine day detox – I have to eat everything and anything I want #excuse

I love Christmas shopping until I’m in an actual shop with a million other people. Somehow it’s never quite as I imagine it’s going to be #backtotheinternet

Sometimes I put off the tidying or cleaning all day and then at bedtime I get a sudden urge to tidy up and find myself frantically rushing around. I wonder why. #itsamystery

Re-reading my random thoughts this week, they really do cover the different aspects of my week and my life. So come on, I’d like to know what you think and I’d love to hear your random thoughts too.

A year on – joining two families together

Unbelievably, it’s now a year since Ellie and I moved in with my partner and his son. A year since we moved area and Ellie changed schools. A year since we took what was a huge leap.

I blogged about when we decided to join our two families together last October (you can see it here) and I blogged when we later bought our new family home and really started to settle (here).

So a year on, it’s fair to say that some things have gone more smoothly than I could ever have hoped and of course some things are still work in progress.

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Our new home is just that – our home. I’m slightly taken aback by how quickly it felt like home to me, I’ve moved a fair few times over the years and there was probably in all that time just one house I felt at home in, until now. Our progress on the decorating and sorting is at best steady – but life is busy and it isn’t urgent so it can wait. This relaxed attitude to the house has of course taken a year to achieve.

When it comes to Ellie, she has truly settled into the new school – she loves going, she’s doing really well and she’s made some lovely friends. When at parents evening her teacher said that it was a pleasure to meet the parent of a child like Ellie, I was speechless – something that really doesn’t happen to me very often. It would be an understatement to say that I feel both relieved and incredibly proud of my little girl.

It turns out though that it’s not just Ellie who’s made friends – I’ve made some great friends too. I’ve been blown away by how welcoming everyone has been – the other parents at school, our new neighbours – literally everyone. For this I feel incredibly lucky and it’s definitely helped me to settle.

The hardest part of our little adventure hasn’t of course been the practical aspects of moving but the emotional ones. For a start I’ve discovered that I am a) more stubborn than I realised and b) quite stuck in my ways living on my own with Ellie. Learning to live as a family of four takes a bit of getting used to. In this one thing it isn’t just me either – we’ve all had to adjust and learn where we fit in the new family and to be flexible about things we used to just take for granted. I mean the practical stuff like the how the toilet seat should be left (down and clean please), how bedtime routines work (7.00pm please), how mealtimes work (quietly and at the table please!) and so on. But I also mean our different personalities and emotions; we have different paces to life, as well as different views on families and parenting. There’s also, in my view, the fact that male brains are just wired differently to female ones, (it’s the jumping around craziness versus drawing a picture i’m talking about,) but i guess that’s for another post.

So there you have it, joining two families together really was as big a deal as I thought it would be and there’s no denying we’ve come a long way in the last year. I also know though that we will continue to grow and change over time as a family – I think every family does. The funny thing is that for once I’m not worried about how that might work…….I’m just excited.

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Random thoughts – 8 November 2013

Last week I introduced #randomthoughts. For anyone who missed it, you can see it here but the general idea is that it will be literally just as it says – a collection of my random thoughts from the past week. It might be funny, it might be sentimental, it might just be something I’ve been mulling over, but should (if all goes to plan) tell you about me and my week…

Here then are my #randomthoughts this week:

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Somehow because I’m a mum and I’m lucky enough to be able to work flexibly, people genuinely seem to think I don’t work. Some things simply don’t move with the times. #frustrating

So it turns out Ellie knows that drunk people stumble. #how?

As I am my mum’s little girl Ellie will always be mine. Hugging her when she comes back from her Dads always takes my breath away. #soppybuttrue

Christmas really seems awfully close and I know I should get organised but somehow I predict it will be a last minute panic #Christmas

Did you know that growing a pumpkin the right shape is harder than you think. #who knew (Couldn’t resist a photo!)

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