This Christmas neither of our children will be with us on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. It’s one of those things that happens by virtue of the fact that my partner and I are both separated from our children’s respective other parent. It’s a fact of life and despite people’s initial reaction usually being ‘oh no, I’m so sorry’, please believe me when I say it really is ok. No I’m not putting on a brave face, or telling myself that to make it real – it really is just fine.
Our plan for Christmas may be a touch complicated but it includes: time on our own, time with grandparents and aunties and uncles on both sides of the family, and time with just our unique little family of four. That’s not a bad Christmas is it?
Yes I will miss the children on Christmas day, Yes I am praying that the magic and mystery of Father Christmas stays with Ellie for at least one more year, so I can enjoy it with her again. Ultimately though Christmas isn’t about that one day.
For me Christmas is about family time and love and there’s plenty of both of those in our Christmas plans this year. When we celebrate our family Christmas on December 27 it will be about just that.
Of course the most important thing is how the children feel about it, so I’ll let Ellie have the final word:
‘I get to see everyone at Christmas but I can’t see everyone in the same place, because there’s too many. But it’s good, because I get two lots of Christmas and presents!’
So there you go – take it from me and from Ellie, you don’t need to feel sorry for us. Our Christmas is different, but it’s still super special too.