Pushy parenting…or not?!

The other week I bought Ellie a times table learning CD, as she is currently focused on learning her 2, 5 and 10 times tables at school. They have a challenge to pass a test in order to get a ‘bronze wrist band’ – they have to write the answer down to 22 questions in 90 seconds.

This is something that by all accounts just needs learning, so having heard Ellie say she wants to do it and having found out about the CD from another Mum, I went ahead and bought it.

As soon as it arrived I played it for Ellie and if I’m honest her reaction was luke warm…a little disappointed I ploughed on nonetheless and played a good few tracks for her before I finally gave up when she threw herself down on the bed. Undeterred I excitedly told her that was enough for now but we could do it together in the car on our regular journeys down the motorway.

So the next time I’m in the car with Ellie, we’ll be giving it a go. I wonder though what I’ll do if she doesn’t want to? The question is – when does encouraging become something more? When will I have crossed that line to pushy parent? The truth is I don’t know and I fear it’s a fine line – it’s also a line I’m navigating a lot these days with her homework, with her reading and so on.

Whilst I’m trying to figure it out though I guess I’ll keep encouraging and tonight Ellie has agreed to practice her times table test…

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4 thoughts on “Pushy parenting…or not?!

  1. Emma T

    It’s a hard one I suppose. You can only take their lead (although at the moment it’s looking like I’ll have to be pushing N to even look at homework if his ‘no’ to reading a phonic book with me weekly for nursery is anything to go by!) #pocolo

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  2. Verily Victoria Vocalises

    This is a really tricky one. I have noticed regularly that Grace tends to try and take the easy way out. Ross is so much better than me at being ‘pushy’ whilst I am the soft touch but I have started to notice that it is his approval she seeks as a result now. She can impress me easily, whilst with him it is harder but she strives more for it – if that makes sense?! I think positive encouragement is where it’s at! Thank you for linking to PoCoLo 🙂 x

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